I
stumbled across a short article by Dr. Mark Goulston, on Psychology Today and
thought it was worth putting in my own two cents! He identifies 10 Habits of Happy Couples and I’ve expanded on them…
Read on to learn about 10 habits of happy couples... |
1)
Go to bed at the same time: Yes, I know you worked a long day
and it’s easy to flop on the couch and drift off to the drone of the TV, but
fight that urge and get up and into the sack with your significant other!
Snuggling up in bed might cause some sexual excitement, but just having
non-sexual physical affection for ten minutes each day has shown to increase
relationship satisfaction. In addition,
it gives you time to have some quality conversation, so you’ll feel more
connected.
2)
Cultivate common interests: After the initial honeymoon stage,
it’s important to realize that you share some activities together (besides sex)
that you both enjoy. You may each bring
unique hobbies to the table, and loving couples show interest in their
partner’s activities. They bond over
learning new skills and sharing new experiences. Just don’t forget that you need a balance of
having your own independent endeavors.
3)
Walk hand in hand or side by side: Whether you’re out for a stroll or
sight seeing, being with your partner
and not running off without them, is important. Sharing this time together and
being in the moment is what will strengthen your experience.
4)
Make trust and forgiveness
your default mode: I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but trust really
is a building block to a strong relationship. It’s normal--couples argue, but
happy couples foster forgiveness, not grudges.
Want to know more about your arguing style? Take this quick quiz
5)
Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong: Our
society has taught us to search for the negative and try to fix it—not to appreciate
what you have done well. Latest research
shows that gratitude is a key to happiness, so apply this to your relationship
and appreciate the things your partner does right.
Everyone loves positive feedback, complements, and being built up, not
put down.
6)
Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work: Studies have shown that physical
touch elicits positive emotion and intimacy from yourself, your partner, and
has long-term psychological effects for wellbeing. It’s a small act, but greeting your partner
at the door with a loving hug can make them feel like a priority and shows that
you are there to support them, especially after a difficult or long day.
7)
Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning:
Hearing these words gives you the
warm fuzzies inside and lets you go off to battle your daily hassles and
frustrating work with a little shield of love.
8)
Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel: I would
add to this say both “good night” and “I love you,” (similar to habit #7)
each night, as it makes your
partner feel secure in the relationship.
This will be especially important if you are upset about something,
because it gives you and your partner hope that you will work through it, and
that regardless of the issue, you still want to be in the relationship.
9)
Do a “weather” check during the day:
It feels great to know that your partner is thinking about
you during the day, despite being busy with work meetings or errands. If a call is too time consuming, a quick text
to saying “thinking of you” or “hope your day is going well” helps you feel
connected. Also, knowing how your
partner’s day is going can help you figure out your time at home together later
that night. For example, you’ll know if
you need to be extra supportive about something, or pick up a celebratory cake!
10)
Be proud to be seen with your partner:
Partners feel happy and valued when you are openly proud to
have them on your arm. Appropriate
public displays of affection show that you enjoy being out and about with your
significant other.
These
“habits” should feel natural, and are not meant to be time consuming. Which behaviors are you already doing? Which
habit can you try to incorporate more into your daily routine? At the end of
the day, it’s all about making your partner happy, because in return, that should
make you feel happy!
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ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing.